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Bebe — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 21:10:59 -0000

Even though I don't agree that NLP is "Voodoo" (because it's based on the neuro-science), this is a great article.

The amazing thing is that I help people with their life problems all the time, but this is one area I can't seem to move past myself, yet. If this were someone else, I could help them understand, accept and deal with the issues, but on myself it's a new kettle of fish.

Fear is natural. Fear is natural. Fear is natural. Do it anyway. Do it anyway.

;)

Thank you for the article.

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Anxiety — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 06:40:49 -0000

befor i have axiety , and now im totaly fine , i think sould not give up who hav that

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AMOG — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 22:49:25 -0000

In a different post I heard you saying after practicing game for a while, something just 'clicks' and you get it. I've just had a mental breakthrough myself when suddenly the fear of 'doing something wrong' evaporated. Then I looked back and realised the thing that had been stifling my game for years was exactly that... the fear of doing something wrong and the difficulty I had handling it when I did. One day all that just vanished. Is that anything like the secret you mean?

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Healing-cafe.com — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 21:47:13 -0000

Great article and some good points made.
Acting is one of those activities that can eliminate the stress and anxiety.
I remember when John Wayne used to talk to his imaginary friend in one of his cowboy films.
In one had he was stressed out and on the other hand he had a whiskey bottle. Mind you whiskey is not a stress reliever.

What I find that puts stress out of my life is listening to soft music, almost the meditation types. It works for me and I've noticed many people relieve their stress by listening to this type of music.

jon

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ASKJDOG — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 01:32:26 -0000

Cheers Blade.. I've also found that certain NLP anchoring exercises are excellent. Really this is very similar using your intent to have a focused meditation. Can help tremendously with boosting mood, reducing anxiety, being able to brush off negative responses, and triggering the right kind of state for meeting women when in field.

Great to see your interest in Newbie Drills.. as I just happen to be working on posting an article or two about this very subject! Thnx again.. J!

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blade — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 11:00:24 -0000

One of my biggest sticking points was "knowing what to say"
canned openers and routines helped me out alot and still do.
Another great point that I often forget is visualization. visualizing successful interactions certainly help me combat anxiety.
Rocking article dude. would be great if you could expand more of the Newbie Drills.
I know for damn sure some of my friends need that

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ASKJDOG — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 07:25:37 -0000

Hey Arsalan.. Yes.. generally I see the best results from my students from warm up sets above everything else! Good point on the 3 second rule (btw I hate rules) it's about taking action and saying something. The idea originally is that if you hover near a girl longer than 3 seconds without saying something she knows you have an agenda and it can make it more difficult.

If a girl does catch me staring.. and I will admit this HAS happened.. then I can recover by saying something like, "Hey it's weird but I could have sworn you were my friend Jessica, but she lives in San Francisco.." then roll into something else. Usually I do what I call the Columbo (named after the detective in that old tv show) where I roll off, and then re-engage the conversation. Just watch a few episodes and you'll know what I mean. It's his classic way of confronting the villain. I found myself doing that years ago, and afterwards I noticed that Mystery was teaching bodyrocking in and out of set.. veeeerrryy similar. Just my way of doing it. It's like a non-verbal false time constraint.

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Arsalan — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 07:07:27 -0000

Great Post, sure helped a lot, I need to work more on warm up sets, I should I guess just relax, because if I pressure myself too much, I wont do it... the three second rule, isn't really counting, its more like "GOOO!!!" without thinking too much...

Cheers
Arsalan